In the clip the little girl's question is hard to hear, but I think she says something like "how long have you been with
Barack Obama?" hence Michelle's initial confusion (did the girl mean married?) and her reply of 'twenty-something years'.
Flabbergasted wrote:Maybe she is just trying to appear facetious and irreverent
I hear Michelle Obama being unwittingly honest as to the nature of her relationship with Barack Obama.
It is odd for a woman to forget exactly when she was married and for how long
if she is in love with her husband. By her language Michelle reveals to us that both those things are
unimportant to her because she can't even remember the date (3 October 1992) or how long it's been.
When a woman sees the length and date of her marriage as unimportant (not worth remembering or marking) then we are looking at a marriage that is either a) a business arrangement or b) is for show only. If a marriage is a business arrangement, or is for show only, then the date of the wedding and the length of the marriage is not worth celebrating or remembering.
Michelle says "it's been over a decade, it's been a while" in relation to her marriage, indicating that something happened over a decade ago
that changed the nature of their relationship
. We don't arbitrarily pick timeframes like that out of thin air - our subconsious presents the words to us, usually before we can engage our brains to over-ride it. What has "been over a decade"? Certainly not the commencement of her marriage which took place "twenty-something" years before. It's not a slip. No woman who has been married for over twenty years mistakes it for ten
I don't know what the change was that made Michelle refer to "a decade", but the Obama children were born in 1998 and 2001. That's "over a decade, it's been a while" and it's possible that their relationship changed after that time, hence why it was in her mind when she was questioned about her marriage.